Hey there, fellow Lifestyle enthusiasts! I’m one half of the duo behind The Guestlist, and my partner-in-crime is probably reading this over my shoulder, nodding along. We’re here to spill the tea on how we went from wide-eyed and displaced to founding a company that’s all about helping couples find just the right vibe in the lifestyle—because, let’s be real, the road to great parties is paved with a few wrong turns and some truly hilarious misadventures.
Our love affair with the swinger lifestyle kicked off in Europe, where we’re from. Back home, the scene felt like a well-kept secret with a velvet rope—exclusive, intentional, and vetted. Parties were intimate, organizers knew your vibe before you even RSVP’d, and every event felt like slipping into your favorite cocktail dress: tailored, sexy, and just right. We’d sip prosecco, chat with couples who got it, and dance until the early hours, knowing everyone in the room was on the same wavelength. It was magic.
Then came the swinger cruise. Oh, those cruises! Picture us, two excited Europeans, boarding a floating city of pineapples and sequins. Thousands of couples, themed parties every night, and a hot tub for every mood. We had a blast and we made life-long friends—don’t get me wrong. We still laugh about the “slut towel” in the dining room, mishaps in the playroom and me smuggling in a big bottle of rum. But after a few days of navigating massive crowds and dodging that one lady, who was a little too enthusiastic in ignoring a no, we realized we were craving something… smaller. More curated. Less “spring break” and more “secret garden soiree.”
When we moved to the U.S., we were buzzing to dive into the American swinger scene. We figured it’d be like Europe’s, just with bigger drinks and maybe some cowboy hats. How naive we were. The U.S. scene was a wild west of its own—no centralized vetting, no clear roadmap, just a patchwork of websites, apps, and whispers about “a party in a warehouse somewhere.” Our first attempt landed us at a “lifestyle event” more like a dive bar’s karaoke night. Not quite the vibe we were chasing.
Finding good parties felt like hunting for buried treasure without a map. We’d scroll through sketchy forums, decipher cryptic event listings, and spent a lot of time and money to end up going home disappointed. The hardest part? Building a network. In Europe, our friends would nudge us toward the best events, but in the U.S., we were starting from scratch. It took months of trial and error—awkward meet-and-greets, a few dud parties—before we found our people. Slowly, we connected with couples who pointed us to hidden gems. Each one reminded us of what we loved about the lifestyle—connection, chemistry, and a killer playlist.
As we settled into the scene, something else started happening. Friends, acquaintances, even random couples we met at parties began asking us for advice. “You guys went to those fancy European parties—where do we start?” “Is there a guide to finding vetted events?” “Help, we don’t want to end up at another karaoke disaster!” Their questions hit home. We’d been there—lost, curious, and craving a way to cut through the noise. The lifestyle is thrilling, but without a trusted guide, it’s easy to feel like you’re wandering in the dark.
That’s when the lightbulb went off. What if we could bring the best of Europe’s curated, vetted swinger culture to the global stage? What if we could help couples—whether they’re in New York, Lisbon, or a cruise ship in the Caribbean—find intimate, high-quality events and trips that feel like they were made just for them? Thus, The Guestlist was born. Our mission is simple: connect couples with bespoke, vetted experiences and trips worldwide, so you can skip the dive-bar detours and go straight to the good stuff. We vet organizers, ensure attendees align with the vibe, and curate events that feel personal, safe, and oh-so-sexy.
Starting The Guestlist has been a wild ride, much like our first cruise line. We’re pouring our hearts (and a few too many espressos) into building a community where every couple can find their perfect party, no matter where they are. So, whether you’re a seasoned swinger or a curious newbie dreaming of a European escape, we’ve got your back. Let’s raise a glass to fewer flip-flops, better vetting, and nights that spark joy—and maybe a little mischief.
With love,
The Guestlist Hosts
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